Where were we? Ah, yes… Expectations.

 

Our expectations of ourselves and what we perceive as being our best may not always be right on point. There are various psychology professionals that are pointing to the fact that people perceive their worldviews as more “fact” than opinion. This can be a bit dangerous when I train with clients, in two ways;

The first is when clients set unrealistic expectations of themselves, or their workouts, or even me, based on their worldview “facts.” I get it, and respect it, you know yourself and your body better than I do, but I also know that losing weight too quickly with crash diets and exercise without recovery could put you at risk for many health problems, including muscle loss, gallstones, nutritional deficiencies, and a drop in metabolism. Your expectations are going to make you over exude your “best,” and it’s my job to pump the breaks on that a bit and set intentions for how to make healthy LIFE-style choices that will contradict your “best” facts and expectations.

The second way is when you decided something wasn’t/isn’t/cannot be possible (even when it is). As we grow up, our outdated brains basically believe what we hear the first time, and accepts it as truth, and these “facts” carry with us into adulthood until we challenge the fallacy of some of them. I like to challenge myself and be super vulnerable with it, out there, in the sparkly glow of social media and when I work with clients because I want to help challenge what you think and believe and help you decide whether those things are really true or not. I actually really, REALLY hate being that vulnerable and don’t like opening myself up as much as I do, in a lot of ways, but the way I see it- if I can help just one person, it’s worth the discomfort I have doing it. Not to mention I’m growing, myself. Pushing boundaries and stepping into areas of discomfort helps us to become more whole beings. If a client I worked with were to say they can’t do something, like ‘I can’t do a single pull up,” you’d better believe that is going to be one of our focuses now because I want to shatter your expectations, so that we can really start digging deep into what you intend to do, and evaluate if that is your best. 🤔

My job is not to expect THE best from you but to show up with your best intentions in mind, and that is what I want from you, otherwise, why show up? Now, we keep going back to this discussion between expectations and intentions, and I promise we will get to that in part 2…